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By: Tracey Herriot

I think it is quite obvious when you are being crazy, rude, or making a joke that just wasn't funny. However sometimes we just say the wrong things without realizing it. Your intentions might appear to be reasonably innocent, and seem like nice, helpful things, but can really affect his opinion of you. Here are the top things you should never say to a guy.

1) Better Than the Other Guys
"You're so much better than all the other losers", or " I like you more than all the other guys that I've dated." sounds like a compliment, but signals him to stay away. Don't make yourself, appear that you are that girl that just has "bad luck in relationships", he'll assume that all the bad luck was just your bad choice in men and he doesn't want to be another. He could also conclude, that all those bad relationships were ended because there was a problem with you.

If you want to show him that you value him above all your ex relationships give him the attention. Don't talk about your exes! Keep the focus on him and the present. Looking for a compliment to give him without focusing on the past? Say things like " I haven't met anyone like you before" or " I'm really enjoying our time together"

2) Sharing your Best Friend's Secret
To share a secret with your man feels like you are putting trust in him. It might seem like a good idea to share with him something like " oh she made me promise not to tell", but he won't appreciate it the same way you do. To him when you are sharing someone deep and dark secrets it suggests that you are a gossip queen. If it's not involving him directly not only is it not your business to share, but not his business to know. Also your guy will think twice before sharing his secrets with you for fear that you will share it with everyone else. To show that you are a person he can truly hold trust in make sure that the next time that your best friend tells you a secret that you promise you wont tell, say to him, " I can't tell you because I promised her to keep the secret." By respecting your friend your guy will appreciate your sense of trust. Remember men look at loyal you are to those around you when they become interested in you. Show him just how loyal you can be.

3) Who He should Be Friends With
Again with the best intentions you might have met the coolest guy who would totally click with your guy, attempting to introduce your guy's next best pal. Just as you wouldn't want him to be your social network for making friends, it's a sure thing he doesn't want you to either. The only reason you should care about his friendship with another male is if it's threatening your relationship.

When you are constantly trying to choose his social groups and friends he might think that you have other ideas...such as well maybe you are interested in these other guys. He could feel threatened and jealous. Don't be selfish. You should allow your man to choose his friends even if you really aren't that crazy about them. I'm sure he just can't stand at least a few of your girlfriends. Lay off a little. If you really want to introduce him to a friend of yours, call a group outing, and let things fall into place on their own.

4) No Worries About Being Late
" Relax, we're running a little late,", could be just the thing you should never say to your guy. It's never a good thing to keep people waiting, but in his eyes it seems as though you really don't care. You are suggesting to him that he doesn't have the right to feel annoyed with the fact that you are late, which in result makes him imply that you are rejecting his feelings, and ignoring him. Making him feel like he is the one with the problem could be a big trigger for an argument.
The best way to help this situation is to acknowledge the importance. Let him know that you are aware that it is important for you to be on time. Apologize to him and tell him you are trying your best to hurry and get there as fast as you can. It will be less likely for you to get in a fight, and he won't feel the need to get defensive.

5) Question His Finances
It seems that in the last week he has bought every electronic device you can think of, as well as that new expensive car, and well....the list goes on. A couple of those things is okay, and well you naturally feel the need to say something. Saying to him, "Can you really afford that" is not the answer. The truth is that most guys feel that a large part of their self worth is in their financials. By telling him that maybe he isn't handleling his money correctly makes him label himself as a loser. Also you don't want to be comparable with his mother. When you are suggesting to him that you know whats best he tends to associate your behaviours with his mother's.

If you are very involved with your man and are worried about his large purchases lately, pick a convient time to talk about money. Discuss your concerns, without making him feel like you are lecturing him. Make a budget together that you both will follow to make it fair.

However if you are just starting to get involved, how he spends his money is not your concern. Unless he is starting to ask for a pick of your wallet, what he is splurging on lately is not your business. However watch out, because how well he manages his money is great way to ask yourself if it is going to be a problem is you are to get more involved in the future.