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By: Tracey Herriot

Do you have that friend that is constantly getting hit on?...even if she's not the prettiest of your group of friends? That's because it takes a little more than good looks to tempt those men to approach. Send all the right signals. Make all the men in room come across the crowd to greet you. Whether you want to realize it or not that friend of yours is using silent cues to grab the attention of all those hotties. Here are a few secrets to make every guy have a sudden urge to say hello.

Wear Solid Colours
-stripes and patterns might be the new trend but wearing solid colours is the way to go. Patterns and stripes are great for a shopping trip with your friends at the mall, but can look a bit busy. A Busy outfit is distracting and can take away from your face. You want him to notice you, not just your clothing. Solid colours tend to give signals that you are a solid person. Solid colours are also associated with a person that is more trustworthy and holds power. Although black may be slimming as we all know, try to spice things up and choose another colour. Black tends to be a bit boring and makes you blend in with every other woman in the crowd.

Look Approachable
-Having confidence is a great thing, but too much can be intimidating. Standing with your hands on your hips indicates you are just too good for this, and way out of his league. Don't look to rigid or uncomfortable. Standing too stiff suggests that you really don't want to be bothered.
If he's sitting down don't stand above him and "look down at his nose", rather make sure you are at the same level. If you can " look up at him" it's even cuter. try lowering your chin slightly and looking up at him. It makes you look fun and gives off the flirtatious signals. Avoid crossing your ankles in front of you, as it tells him you would rather be somewhere else and you are getting bored.
-If you tend to be a bit shy try the group approach. Place yourself in the middle of a group or ask your girlfriends to come along for the night. Having people around will make you feel more comfortable and naturally make you talk more. It will also make you appear to be more popular and raise his status of you.

Signals of Trust
-When you are holding a drink or a clutch place your hands so that your wrists are also exposed. When you hold a drink with two hands it makes you look closed off and uneasy. Leaving your purse or clutch between you and a guy can give him subtle clues that you trust him with something valuable. Men know a purse is more than just a purse...its a woman's survival kit, and portable pharmacy all in one.

Cue Him to Come Over
Face your body towards your point of interest. Make sure you are giving the attention to the man, and not the bar. Having your knees and feet pointed towards the door either tells him that you are expecting to escape, or are ready to leave.
- Body language as we know is more than fifty percent of communication. Giving him eye contact is a great start, but try sending him a sexy smirk. He'll either think you recognize him and come over to find out how, or his curiosity will send him your way.