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How To Attract The Mate Of Your Dreams
By: Priya Shah
In my quest to find the perfect mate, I often ended up dating or attracting people who were completely wrong for me. It was only when I realised a simple truth that my entire concept of relationships changed.
Practitioners of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) have a rule that states: The meaning of your communication is the response that you get. (Article Continues Below)
That means the response you elicit from a person depends entirely on how you communicate your ideas to them. If you communicate in a way that gets you the response you desired, you were successful. If not, you need to learn what was missing in your communication and how to incorporate that the next time you try. Notice how this rule places the onus of getting a response on YOU, not on the other person. (Article Continues Below)
We often talk about men (or women) being "emotionally unavailable" or unwilling to commit to a better relationship. But the kind of people we attract into our lives often tend to be people who mirror our personality or the issues we are dealing with, in some way. If, deep down, you have a fear of commitment or of "losing your freedom", then you're going to attract a mate with the same issues. If you have no self-love or low self-esteem, you'll end up attracting people with the same problems. The reason why we see patterns in our lives, why we get into abusive or unfulfilling relationships, is because we've not dealt with the issues that were responsible for creating our own beliefs and personalities. The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. If you think positive thoughts, you'll attract good things to you. If you respect people and do good by them, you'll elicit the same response from them. If you want to attract a person with all the qualities you want in a mate, then you must develop those qualities in yourself.
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