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How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
By: Violet Roselli
You're reading this article for one reason, you want your ex boyfriend back, right? You're probably still reeling from his wanting to end your relationship and there's a void in your heart and your life where he used to be. Here is some advice to help you in getting your ex boyfriend back.

First, whatever you do, don't chase after him. Don't text him, call him, or just show up wherever he is. Acting like a stalker will only turn him off. He has to want to come back to you, not the other way around or you won't be able to get your ex boyfriend back. Instead, you should work on yourself. Work on getting your emotions in order and on getting back on your feet. You're going to have to become a more positive person if you want to get your ex boyfriend back. You're going to have to get rid of those negative emotions that you're feeling right now, like the loss and the hurt, and get back in a more positive mood.

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A good way to do that is to write a letter to your boyfriend with everything you're feeling in it. Write about the good times in your relationship and the fun you had together, the pain you and hurt you went through, and all of the things you never told him that you wished you had. The next part is really important, once you've put everything into the letter, BURN IT. Absolutely, whatever you do, DO NOT SEND THE LETTER. Instead, just light it on fire and let the flames burn it away and give yourself some closure on that part of your relationship and your life. After that, remove everything negative from your life. This includes your friends saying bad things about your ex boyfriend or even listening to sad music that makes you think of your ex boyfriend and cry. And to whatever extent you can, be positive about your life in general. When you think about your relationship, try to remember what was good, what made it strong. If you happen to talk to your ex boyfriend, bring up the good time, but avoid fighting about the things that caused the break up. If you want to get your ex boyfriend back, you have to remind him what was good about the relationship.

Work on your strengths, find things you're good at and do that. If your ex boyfriend thought you were a good cook, or good at baking or singing, take a cooking or baking class, join a choir or take some music lessons. Try to get better at the things you're good at. That doesn't mean to ignore your weaknesses. Think of the things you're bad at and work on getting better at them. If your ex boyfriend thought you were a slob, try to clean up after yourself more or if he thought you were too nit-picky, try to let up on some things. Make an effort to become a better person first if you want to get your ex boyfriend back. And don't hesitate to go out on dates. Make yourself available, to your ex boyfriend and others. If someone asks you out, accept it. You don't don't have to be in love with someone to have dinner with him or go to a movie with him. If your ex boyfriend sees that guys want you, he'll want to be back in your life. Focusing more on yourself and being more positive will definitely help you in getting your ex boyfriend back.
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