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By: Tracey Herriot

10 Things that increase your man's want for you in bed. Build that intimate relationship you want and keep the heat on. A few Great tips to be the woman he's been looking for for. Make him want you now more than ever before. Please him and receive that pleasure you've been waiting for!

1) Talking dirty- never force it like in the porno's, make it honest. If you're a little shy gently whisper into his ear. Start slowly with something like " Tell me what you want." Next make a sexy compliment on his smell, his cologne, or telling him that he has that sexy look that totally turns you on. Communication in bed is very important. Give him that reassurance that you enjoy making love with him. Work your way into saying things like " I like it when you",or " when you do this...it makes me feel..." or if you are feeling a bit naughty say "oh but baby I WANT you and I WANT you to..."
Enjoy it! This is your chance to communicate what it is you want and at the same time it makes him feel like you are taking charge.

2) Massages- Sex is important yes, but it is important to build an intimate relationship outside of having sex. Massaging is a great way to relax. If he's feeling a bit tense, a little massage could do the trick. Just to get him to relieve that stress he's been having. When he's relaxed he's going to feel more at ease when having sex.
Quick tip: try to dig into his shoulders and knead them like you are making bread.
Also switch once in a while. Just as you give him massages when he needs it make sure he's giving you one once in a while.

3) Say his name- By saying his name during intercourse, it not only makes you claim his as yours, but makes him feel that he is yours.Say it like you mean it. No distractions, make sure he knows that he is the one who you want. For a little more fun try slipping his name into your dirty talk.

4) Use Your imagination- Having trouble concentrating in bed? Here's a little trick, try to compare your favorites to what he wants in bed. When you go down on him think of your favorite ice-cream flavour, and lick him like its the absolute best. Pretend you're in your favorite destination, for example a hot and sunny beach. Try and be open about it, and talk about it to your man. Say things like "oh it feels sexy when you rub me like that, wouldn't it be sexy if we were on the beach and you were rubbing lotion all over me baby." Get him to open up by asking him what he would like to do if the two of you were on that sexy beach and looking out onto the ocean.

5) Oral sex- When it comes to oral sex, tease tease and tease some more. Don't feel you have to rush into anything. Kiss him down the thighs and back up. When he thinks you're about to go for it move to the other leg. Start by licking underneath. (here's your time to use that imagination like him like hes your fave flavour icream cone.)
Spice it up a little and try oral on each other at the same time.

6) Talk About it- It is important for you to communicate what you like and what you need outside the bedroom. The best way to communicate this is simple. Just talk about it. Be open! When it comes to your past experiences and fantasies you should talk about it. It is a great way to get to know each other, and by talking about it the both of you are able to better know the likes and needs of each other. Talking about sex makes him think about having sex, and could make him more excited when you reach the bedroom.

7) Play Dress Up - As we all know imagination and fantasies are an awesome way to stimulate your man. Have fun while doing it. Take him to a local sex shop and have him choose the outfit for the night. Whether its some beautiful lingerie or a naughty school girl, play along. You might feel shy or awkward for the first few minutes, don't. Have fun!
If you are queen of lingerie, cause there are a few of you out there, wear his shirt to bed. The fact that you are in his shirt will turn him on.

8) Stare into his eyes- Looking at him is important, but the Way you look at him is even more. Without saying anything your eyes have the power of telling him exactly how you feel. This intimacy is one of the main reasons why the missionary position is the most popular.

9) Kissing- During, after, and in between sex , or just all the time, kissing is the beginning of intimacy. Start with a few pecks on your boyfriend's lips, and neck. Try nibbling his earlobes for a more exciting effect. Tease him by slowing down once in a while, stare sexily into his eyes, and breathe slowly. Concentrate on the sensations you are feeling. Don't forget to kiss, Kissing is supposed to be fun.

10) Make some Noise- Don't make him guess whether he is pleasing you or not, let him know that he is. Make some noise. However don't force it. It doesn't have to be loud, but a good percentage of men believe that the louder you are the more you are enjoying it. Let yourself feel the pleasure he's giving you. This is your moment! ENJOY!